Category Archives: ALL ABOUT LOVE

WHEN A MAN LOVES A WOMAN

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I would like to share this to everyone, especially to all the men out there, who never gets tired of loving their own woman. A message to men in love.. :)

You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect, you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together. But if she can make you laugh, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold on to her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break – her HEART. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there.

                                                                           –BOB MARLEY

RISE by GABRIELLE

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im a great fan of Gabrielle! her songs ensembles the mixed emotions of a lady, and all the challenges that a girl encounters along her journey of life, and love. very empowering, and inspiring! i’l post more of Gabrielle’s songs.

ENJOY IT! NOW PLAYING.. =)

“Rise”

I know that it’s over
But I can’t believe we’re through
They said that time’s a healer
And I’m better without you
It’s gonna take time I know
But I’ll get over you

[Chorus:]
Look at my life
Look at my heart
I have seen them fall apart
Now I’m ready to rise again
Look at my hopes
Look at my dreams
I’m building bridges from these scenes
Now I’m ready to rise again

Caught up in my thinking, yeah
Like a prisoner in my mind
You pose so many questions
But the truth was hard to find
I better think twice I know
That I’ll get over you

[Chorus]

Much time has passed between us
Do you still think of me at all?
My world of broken promises
Now you won’t catch me when I fall

WHEN DO YOU SAY, “IT’S OVER.”?

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When do you say.. IT’S OVER.? Is it really over? Or is it just a suspension? Many people say that love is full of mystery. There are things that we cannot understand why? We cannot explain how? We cannot figure out when? And we cannot define where?

Love has always been the greatest word of all time. And being in love has always been the greatest feeling anyone could ever have. Every relationship has its own history to remember. Some are sweet, some may be painful, and most HAPPY!

There are a lot of books that explains how to understand the difference between a man and a woman’s perspective when it comes to love and relationships. A famous tagline would be, “men are from mars, women are from venus”. The explanation with this would be simple. That both sex came from two different planets with different behaviours. The two are extremely different.

In most cases, men are dominantly dictating while women are faithfully submissive. It’s the norm, but should it always be the “norm”? Sometimes, when you feel like it’s not anymore fulfilling being submissive to your man, a woman should think and re-assess the real status of the relationship that she has with him. If you think that your rights are being deprived, you can always say “no” and refuse to submit.

We all have choices, equal choices that were clearly defined by the Law and by God. And every choice that we make has its own consequence and purpose, much more the responsibility for any risks that may involve in such decisions. We may have all the choices, but we’re not perfect. We decide for something that we think would benefit us at the most, or would benefit others more than us. In short, our decision depends on our state of mind for the moment. Deciding being selfish, or deciding being selfless.

There are a lot of reasons why things should be over. Why relationships must end. And why we must stand for the decision that we made. Even if it could be a wrong decision in the future, the important thing is, you have decided.

Life is like a long flowchart. You must always decide every turning point. You follow the flow and the path to where your decision takes you, until you reach the END. The question would be, did you have the best ending? Then the question, “WHEN DO YOU SAY IT’S OVER?” will have an answer.

Life is beautiful, enjoy your flowchart! =)

HEART BROKEN DILEMMA

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Life is’nt perfect.. and that’s a cliché. All of us, mature people, have already experienced loving someone, not related to us by blood. We all fall in love.. and sometimes, much to our regret, really fell in love and got failed in keeping it.

Love brings us joy and happiness.. and even gives us the “life” that we have dreamed about. But sometimes, the love that we thought was not the reality.. it’s untrue, and deceitful. We end up crying all day and even extending it till night just to get over the pain and suffering that we are experiencing. And the sad part, it does’nt just end there. It becomes a “battle”. You were trying to fight something inside your system which we think is unbearable. And in the long run, it becomes malignant. That’s why some people cannot handle it anymore, to the extent that they become suicidal. Whew! That’s scary, but statistics shows!

So why do you feel pain every now and then? Because you’re still healing.. just like a wound, literally.. sometimes you think your wound is already healing. But when it strikes into something that will trigger it to open, you can see there’s still blood inside. It’s healed on the outside, but still healing on the inside.

They say that it’s better to get wounded physically because the hurt that you will be feeling wont stay for a long time. It can be healed by a medicine and the pain can be numbed by an anesthesia. But the wound of a heart broken cannot be healed by a medicine and cannot be numbed by an anesthesia.. if it can be, i guess drugstores would have a long queue of customers  buying those medicines!

It’s hard.. really hard and way too hard to mend a broken heart. It cuts like a knife, it’s true. But what can we do to at least lessen the pain? On the first hour, we really can’t do anything about it. It’s there, crushing your bones, and pounding a big force on your heart like you cannot breathe the air around you. It’s an emotional torture.

But after that, you need to step back, just one step. Then take a deep breath, feel the air around you, to gain calmness. Then think of your position. Where are you? Are you in a place where you can have a peaceful mind to think properly? If you’re not, then find a place close to that area. Collect yourself, then relax for a while. Then, when you think that you can already control whatever you are feeling at the moment, you may start calling your friends to confide everything that you would like to share with them. Or maybe, just your closest friend. And even a close relative from your family. Someone you can talk to, that will just listen to your grievances and feelings.

After saying your piece with them, you may ask for their advices and opinions about what happened. With this, the burden that you are carrying will be lessen, knowing that your family and friends are there to support you. Talk to them more often to discuss your emotional status. At least they would know what would be the best treatment that they could give to you.

Being with your friends or family, you can do a lot of activities that will deviate your attention from your “heart problem.”  You may try a new sports, or if you’re not, try to get into sports, something that will occupy your idle time so you wont have time to think about being  a heart broken. Go out and meet new people! You’ll never know, the “cure” might just be out there waiting for you.

You need to keep yourself busy, and just focus your attention into something that will benefit you in a positive way.  Think of the things that you still have. Treasure it, be thankful for it, and grow more with it. It can be your work, or your business that can make yourself a little more busy than the usual. It’s not the end of the world, anyway!

Then as time passes by, you would never know that you are already moving on.. and moving forward. You can now just smile about even the tiniest hurt that you’ve felt during your “ trying to get over” days.

And when you think that you’re ready to fall in love again, take some precautionary measures. You are now a better person, much a better lover. Love makes the world go round, it’s the start of everything in this planet. Don’t get tired of loving.. It’s the happiest thing to do, to love. (^,^)

CATCHING THE CHEATERS

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well, well, well.. cheaters are all around the corner.. they victimize a lot of people specially those who are closest to them.. their very own partners!

yes, indeed! both men and women cheats whether by choice or by chance. come on, we all flirt even sometimes, secretly . it’s the nature of mankind.. a part of socialization and acquaintance. but sometimes, it becomes serious whenever we cross the line..

now what’s that line? it is the limitation where we control ourselves to get intimately attached to the person that we were flirting to. common flirts are smiling to someone you just know, maybe in a bar or someone you dont even know, just because you find that person cute or attractive. like talking and having a conversation where both of you shares some personal information, like your name of course, your contact number, etc.

it really starts with a flirt. before we get intimate to someone, or get attached to someone, it must start with a flirt.. just flirt. but when you find the person to whom you flirted with a little interesting, you will get drawn and just find yourself hooked .

so, what are the signs to consider if your partner is doing some “sidelines” like having “another” person in his/her life? we just need to be like a dog, who can smell beyond our normal senses.

first, COMPARE. well for most of us, we must know the daily routine of our partner from the time we shared ourselves to them, basically the start of the relationship. if he is doing something new and unusual from what he’s been doing since you’ve met, think. and start being vigilant. it can be a sign of cheating.

second, ASK. well, that’s your right! ask questions.. where is he going, what will he be doing there, when will he comeback, things like that. it’s not inappropriate to ask those questions. because if he’s not cheating on you, he wont get annoyed by that.

third, ANALYZE. you dont need to be a scientist to be able to realize what is happening, right? follow your intuitions, most of the time it’s right! it’s a plus bonus to girls actually.. the “woman’s intuition” thing. you need to remember or recall everything that he says, or he reasons to you whenever he’s not around. because one day, you will need it in solving the puzzle.

fourth, SIMULATE. well, this is the hardest but tricky part of testing the waters! create a plan, do not overeact. you need to put him in a situation where he cannot deny if he is actually cheating on you. how? that’s the thrill of the catch!

men are really liars.. hell yeah! but they have not perfected that skill. that’s why they ended up being “caught in the act”.. you just need to observe their gestures even the slightest one. this applies to women too, who also cheats on their partners. so, we just need to strengthen our senses..

enjoy the catch!


STUPID LOVE

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i remember the hit song “stupid love” by salbacuta, a local rapper group who gazed every filipinos way back in 2002 with it’s famous lyrics about a man loving a girl, who in the end fooled him, and made him a stupid guy for being so.

stupid love? it really do exists.. maybe some of us are not aware that we belong to those, being in a stupid love, or loving in stupidity. but what is the real gauge for that? is stupidity in love is closely proportional to martyr lovers? or the ones they call loving blindly?

is there really a measurement that can specifically and accurately distinguished a person whether he/she is already being stupid to love a certain person, or loving a person whom other’s think he/she does’nt deserve? confusing, huh?!

anyway, each and everyone of us has our own style and threshhold when it comes to loving. some would think that they are just accepting the person for who they are, but cannot be called stupid. for some, they already know the “flaws, faults  and failures” of the person they are in to, but for some reasons, they choose not to give a damn about it. or they are just being ” blindly aware” of all the unfaithfulness of their significant other.

but sometimes, it’s just getting so wrong as time passes by.. that you can no longer respect even your own self, you tend to sacrifice your emotions and even your ego just to make your relationship work, and lasts.

if your in a relationship where, you’re just being stabbed everyday by the hurts and pains that you get while staying, even you still love the person, sometimes you just need to let go.. you have to love yourself first to be able to love someone even better. respect yourself most, prove your worth to gain your strength.

life is not easy, specially when your not loving, and being stupid in love..

ALL ABOUT LOVE, an introduction

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this is my first entry on my “all about love” category.. this will tackle about situations in life which most of us deal with everyday, about love and relationships.

simple thoughts and situations that everyone can relate to, as long as your loving and living.

i hope we can have forums to be able to interact with each other and have some discussions.

this will be a series of “love situations” which i think, is already happening anywhere in the world.

i would be very pleased for you to join in our forums to express our thoughts more, and ask for somebody’s advise. and also, to get inspirations and encouragement from each of one us!

WHY MEN CHEATS?

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why men cheats? do i have to specify the answers one by one?
men cheats not because they are born polygamous. men cheats because they are insecure.
exactly. and i am very sure about that answer. come on, guys! explain why..
most men feel secure if they have a lot of girls around them.. when i mean girls, it refers to girlfriends. they wanted to feel secure because they want to “belong”, in a circle where they can brag about their charm on girls to their friends. it adds the machismo effect on their pride.
and the result? a lot of innocent women gets hurt because of the men’s “playfulness”. men does not consider the fact that someone might be loving them wholeheartedly and sincerely but they would not notice it.
men enters on multiple relationships with women because they just want to have a “spare tire” when the other girl splits up with them. they need a fall back.. hmm.. wise, isnt it?
men cheats on women because they are afraid of rejection. when a woman tried to reject them, men would not feel a big impact because somebody else is waiting for them.. it goes with the saying, “saving for the rainy days!”
men cheats on women because they are afraid to be alone. as we all know, men are emotionally weak. they do not verbally express their feelings or disclose it with someone to get relief. they just go out of their way to enjoy and forget about the “hurt” that they are feeling. but inside they are broken. they make use of that excuse to meet other women who can understand them and goes with them while enjoying the ride, then eventually have an intimate relationship with her.
men cheats on women because they are coward. statistics shows that most relationship breakups were initiated and proposed mostly by women. and those breakups were caused by the unfaithfulness of their male partner. meaning, that men are coward to tell their significant other that they are not in love with them anymore, that they have found someone better to get in love with. why? because they dont want their girlfriend to get hurt if they would know the reason why their boyfriend is splitting up on them. they are not just telling the truth, they also keep on hiding the truth as best as they can. how ruthless, isnt it?
men cheats on women because they are protecting their own benefits. yes. “friends” with benefits. when we say benefits, these are aspects in general means. everything that men enjoys in their multiple relationships goes with that. time, sex, attention, pleasure, leisure, all of them!
men cheats on women beacuse they are not contented. come on, nobody’s perfect. and each character of us compensate each other’s flaws. men wants a woman who has a perfect character. but does it exists? of course it does’nt. so they tend to fill up their girlfriend’s inadequacy from someone else’s capability. and so the cheating happens.
men cheats on women because they really dont know how to love. a simple explanation would do. when you really love someone, you have to accept everything about her. her past, her mistakes, and her character. when you love, there should always be truth and respect. loving might be hurtful, but atleast you are truthful. the burden would not be as hard and as big if men will just be truthful to their significant other.

so what now? should a man validate this? or women alone, can agree to that?
now men, how do you plea?

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