It’s quite a long time, since i updated my blog. I was, and still remains busy in my family life.. yeah, happy mom of three now!
But i tried to find time to greet you, my readers and visitors a MERRY MERRY CHRISTMAS!
I would like to share this to everyone, especially to all the men out there, who never gets tired of loving their own woman. A message to men in love..
You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect, you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together. But if she can make you laugh, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold on to her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break – her HEART. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there.
–BOB MARLEY
mama, mom, nanay, inay.. whatever name we wanted to call them, they are all the same kind.. they are our mother. when all of us were still at our tender age, we were just kids waiting for our mother to cook our food, tuck us in bed, and do most of the things for us.
in most of us, “mama” was our first word to say when we were just babies.. i guess we dont have to wonder why, primarily because, all of us children came out from our mother’s womb. and the very first heart beat that we had, was inside our dearest mother. she was there during our “dependent times”.. and when we reached the point that we think we can make it on our own, she’s still there to support us, and pick us every time we fall. she never misses to care about our feelings, our problems, and who always wants us to be happy to see the beauty of being a child.
i remember when my mama told me, “when you will have a child in the future, when you become a mother of your own, you will understand me.” well, what she has told me was very true, and all the parents would agree. i realized that it was a tough job for her to be a mother to us.. i was not even on the half of her motherhood, but i am experiencing how hard it is to be a mom, but on the other hand, it is more rewarding and joyful to be a mother.. to raise your kids, seeing them happy and innocent yet fragile.. the completeness of being a woman could not be attained unless she becomes a mother of her own.. yes, it is true.
we all have to celebrate being a child, and being a mother.. love your mom and be grateful that she’s one of our beloved parents, who never gets tired of protecting us, loving us, and accepting us. they are gifts from God, as well as our children making our stay in this world worth living..
HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO ALL THE PROUD MAMA’S IN THE WORLD!
im a great fan of Gabrielle! her songs ensembles the mixed emotions of a lady, and all the challenges that a girl encounters along her journey of life, and love. very empowering, and inspiring! i’l post more of Gabrielle’s songs.
ENJOY IT! NOW PLAYING.. =)
“Rise”
I know that it’s over
But I can’t believe we’re through
They said that time’s a healer
And I’m better without you
It’s gonna take time I know
But I’ll get over you
[Chorus:]
Look at my life
Look at my heart
I have seen them fall apart
Now I’m ready to rise again
Look at my hopes
Look at my dreams
I’m building bridges from these scenes
Now I’m ready to rise again
Caught up in my thinking, yeah
Like a prisoner in my mind
You pose so many questions
But the truth was hard to find
I better think twice I know
That I’ll get over you
[Chorus]
Much time has passed between us
Do you still think of me at all?
My world of broken promises
Now you won’t catch me when I fall
In times of trouble, how do you survive? How do you deal with the problem that comes into your way? Are you the “passive” type? Or the “active” type? From the famous tagline, “different strokes for different folks”, we deal and treat with our problem depending on our capacity to think and analyze things.
There are 2 kinds of problems, the unexpected and the foreseen. Problems that happens accidental and is beyond our control can be categorized as the “unexpected problem”. These are scenarios that just pops out suddenly in our life that we cannot do anything but to deal with it. An example of it would be, a loss of a loved one, a demise. Although all of us are expected to die eventually, but we don’t expect it to happen soon! So when it happens, although it’s painful, we must deal with it.
The next kind of a problem is the foreseen. Well, we don’t need to be like Nostradamus, or a psychic to predict things to happen. Actually, in reality, most of our problem falls in this category. We tend to do things that are not very well thought about before executing it. If you may notice, there are problems that happen in our lives which should not be happening at all. Because of our carelessness, and passiveness to a potential problem that may occur, it evolves into a certified “mind-bugling” scenario without us noticing it. Then there goes the problem.
Another tagline, “paralysis of the analysis”, when you keep on thinking about a certain situation, that suspends your decision, the execution just hangs in somewhere. You cannot figure out a certain direction that will lead you to decide whether you want to do it or not.
Thinking three steps ahead before making a decision would be the best tool to come up with a great outcome in decision making. It’s like a chess game, that every move you make is three steps ahead of your goal. It is like preventing a potential problem to happen. If you can make yourself to have that kind of ability, life will be so easy. And you would have a lot more time to enjoy it, rather than spending most of your time in thinking about your problem and the solution to it. As we all know, PREVENTION is better than CURE.
Life is what you make it! Why not make it fulfilling and happy. Life is too short, people! (^,-)
When do you say.. IT’S OVER.? Is it really over? Or is it just a suspension? Many people say that love is full of mystery. There are things that we cannot understand why? We cannot explain how? We cannot figure out when? And we cannot define where?
Love has always been the greatest word of all time. And being in love has always been the greatest feeling anyone could ever have. Every relationship has its own history to remember. Some are sweet, some may be painful, and most HAPPY!
There are a lot of books that explains how to understand the difference between a man and a woman’s perspective when it comes to love and relationships. A famous tagline would be, “men are from mars, women are from venus”. The explanation with this would be simple. That both sex came from two different planets with different behaviours. The two are extremely different.
In most cases, men are dominantly dictating while women are faithfully submissive. It’s the norm, but should it always be the “norm”? Sometimes, when you feel like it’s not anymore fulfilling being submissive to your man, a woman should think and re-assess the real status of the relationship that she has with him. If you think that your rights are being deprived, you can always say “no” and refuse to submit.
We all have choices, equal choices that were clearly defined by the Law and by God. And every choice that we make has its own consequence and purpose, much more the responsibility for any risks that may involve in such decisions. We may have all the choices, but we’re not perfect. We decide for something that we think would benefit us at the most, or would benefit others more than us. In short, our decision depends on our state of mind for the moment. Deciding being selfish, or deciding being selfless.
There are a lot of reasons why things should be over. Why relationships must end. And why we must stand for the decision that we made. Even if it could be a wrong decision in the future, the important thing is, you have decided.
Life is like a long flowchart. You must always decide every turning point. You follow the flow and the path to where your decision takes you, until you reach the END. The question would be, did you have the best ending? Then the question, “WHEN DO YOU SAY IT’S OVER?” will have an answer.
Life is beautiful, enjoy your flowchart! =)
this is from the blog entry of Ruth Purple of WOMEN’S HOME PAGE. i just like to share it with you..
Mistress – just the word itself imbibes negative impressions. Wives despise them and society looks down on them. Mistresses are associated with the word home wrecker with low morals. But if you really think about it, do they like being a mistress? Is that a choice they voluntarily choose or is it a written destiny? If there is such a thing as being “single-blessedness”- meaning people who are “blessed” or born to be single, is there such thing as “mistress-blessedness”? What kind of woman would chose to be a mistress in the first place? Being a mistress is never easy, so they say.
You cannot demand and you constantly settling for stolen moments and attention. But since you are the other woman and everybody hates you, you might as well excel in what you do. And you’d better be good in keeping yourself anonymous or you will be forever obtaining the mark of the Scarlet Letter. A perfect mistress is a lady who is an expert in handling her man and knows how to keep him and the relationship hidden- if you can’t do both, then you are just a bimbo who likes to “do” somebody else’s husband. What does it takes to be the perfect other woman, you ask.
The number one rule of being the perfect other woman is- know where you stand. This is the rule of the universe to have order-knowing your place- everything should be in its proper place and order-like the sun and the moon, the land and the sea. This means the other woman should never show affection in public to avoid scandal- scandal is worst than murder. Jesus was a victim of scandal, see what happened to him. So, if you don’t want to be crucified- save your urges inside the bedroom. The difference between a mistress and a wife is- a mistress never believes every word his lover is saying; another decree in being the perfect other woman- never believe what your man is saying to you.
In general, men are liars. They are driven to say whatever it takes to get what they want. “You understand me more that’s why I love you more than my wife.”- Never let this enter your head. This is usually a defense mechanism of a philandering man to justify his guilt for having a you. Enjoy every moment when he is showering you with sweet nothings but be on top of it. A mistress should have an ally- and there’s no better perfect ally than his lover’s assistant or secretary. You should know how to have a rapport with his lover’s secretary- for two main reasons- to keep tract of his lover and to cover-up for them.
The other woman always remembers that curiosity kills- especially if you are curious about the wife. It’s tempting to see the person your lover chose to sleep at night even if he “doesn’t lover her”. Curiosity can become very insatiable and before you know it, you are face to face with the wife with a gun pointing in your head. There are so many orders that a perfect adulteress should do but I will leave you with this one- discreetness. Mistresses should be synonymous with being discreet. A perfect adulteress should never brag or talk about being a mistress, she should never bad mouth or get jealous with the wife, the other woman should never ask for money, she should not travel with her lover- meet him somewhere else instead and most importantly she should never complain.
Mistresses, yes we don’t like the idea of them but they are also people whose only fault is being in love with the right person in the wrong time.
well, if that would be the category of a mistress, i’m definitely not one of them..
have you ever thought about a woman who would like to be in a position of a filler to a man who has already a legal mistress? in short, a woman who would love to be an illegal mistress! there is such a thing.. and i just recently discovered that stupidity.
let me first define the three characters mostly used in this post.
legal miss- a mistress, legally acknowledge by the family, friends and relatives of the man to whom the woman has a relationship with
illegal miss- a mistress, unknown to many, and has a secret relationship with a married man who has already a legal mistress.
man- a complicated, still legally married man, now separated with his lawful wife.
long ago, there was a girl who opted to get involve with a married man, who was actually living with his lawful wife during that time. their relationship became so serious, enough to have a child of their own. the fight within the wife and the mistress was so verbally hurtful to a certain extent, that some nasty things were done even on the internet by both.
but in the end, the mistress won. because the man choose the other woman which is his mistress over his lawful wife. and so their life continues.
the mistress was still in an unstable mind and thinking that they can make it though. their relationship went on and off, but they still managed to patch things up. a lot of goodbyes were done, mostly every month due to the insecurities felt by the woman.
but even so, the woman loved his man so much, that she never thought that her man could be cheating on her.
the woman does’nt know that her man has met another woman, that became his confidante in times of their quarrels and misunderstandings. the woman has become the “illegal mistress”. it was unknown to the “legal miss” that during the times that they were apart, her man was already building an intimate relationship with the “illegal miss”.
they were always having fun while hanging around with each other, but their relationship was a top secret to all.
the man maintained his relationship with his “illegal miss” because he had not experienced any problems with her in terms of time constraints. the “illegal miss”, was such a great follower and believer to the man, that she thought she already knew everything. but she was so wrong.
she was overly confident that the man loved her above all, and would trade anything just to keep her.
the man already felt happiness with her “legal miss”, as he observed that she has become more stable with regards to the stability of their relationship. he has found the direction in their relationship as a family, having their child and seeing it growing.
the “illegal miss” noticed it, so she started digging up on her boyfriend’s “legal miss”. she wants to know what’s happening? and why does his man’s time for her became shorter and limited. until she finally got what she wants. the details.
the “illegal miss” started to show herself to distract the “legal miss” of his boyfriend. the man still wanted to keep their relationship unknown to many. but truth will always prevail, no matter how hard you hide it. it will come out freshly from the oven.. haha
upon discovering, the “legal miss” immediately broke up with her man. she was very upset, hurt and felt the sudden rush of pain every time she thinks about it. she was terribly shaking that she was not ready to accept it and still thinks that what happened was so unbelievable!
but finally, the man broke down, and made a decision to choose. he choose to be with the woman whom he loved so much. the “legal miss”. and now, they are picking up the pieces, and strengthening their team effort to make their relationship work until the end..
how can a woman, who already knew the great complication of the life of that man, and still wanting to have a relationship with him? how stupid she was that she entered that world. really stupid. and now, she’s getting what she deserves..
why men cheats? do i have to specify the answers one by one?
men cheats not because they are born polygamous. men cheats because they are insecure.
exactly. and i am very sure about that answer. come on, guys! explain why..
most men feel secure if they have a lot of girls around them.. when i mean girls, it refers to girlfriends. they wanted to feel secure because they want to “belong”, in a circle where they can brag about their charm on girls to their friends. it adds the machismo effect on their pride.
and the result? a lot of innocent women gets hurt because of the men’s “playfulness”. men does not consider the fact that someone might be loving them wholeheartedly and sincerely but they would not notice it.
men enters on multiple relationships with women because they just want to have a “spare tire” when the other girl splits up with them. they need a fall back.. hmm.. wise, isnt it?
men cheats on women because they are afraid of rejection. when a woman tried to reject them, men would not feel a big impact because somebody else is waiting for them.. it goes with the saying, “saving for the rainy days!”
men cheats on women because they are afraid to be alone. as we all know, men are emotionally weak. they do not verbally express their feelings or disclose it with someone to get relief. they just go out of their way to enjoy and forget about the “hurt” that they are feeling. but inside they are broken. they make use of that excuse to meet other women who can understand them and goes with them while enjoying the ride, then eventually have an intimate relationship with her.
men cheats on women because they are coward. statistics shows that most relationship breakups were initiated and proposed mostly by women. and those breakups were caused by the unfaithfulness of their male partner. meaning, that men are coward to tell their significant other that they are not in love with them anymore, that they have found someone better to get in love with. why? because they dont want their girlfriend to get hurt if they would know the reason why their boyfriend is splitting up on them. they are not just telling the truth, they also keep on hiding the truth as best as they can. how ruthless, isnt it?
men cheats on women because they are protecting their own benefits. yes. “friends” with benefits. when we say benefits, these are aspects in general means. everything that men enjoys in their multiple relationships goes with that. time, sex, attention, pleasure, leisure, all of them!
men cheats on women beacuse they are not contented. come on, nobody’s perfect. and each character of us compensate each other’s flaws. men wants a woman who has a perfect character. but does it exists? of course it does’nt. so they tend to fill up their girlfriend’s inadequacy from someone else’s capability. and so the cheating happens.
men cheats on women because they really dont know how to love. a simple explanation would do. when you really love someone, you have to accept everything about her. her past, her mistakes, and her character. when you love, there should always be truth and respect. loving might be hurtful, but atleast you are truthful. the burden would not be as hard and as big if men will just be truthful to their significant other.
so what now? should a man validate this? or women alone, can agree to that?
now men, how do you plea?
in reality, people have been naming names to women who has an intimate relationship with a married man, to whom they are not legally binded by the law of mankind and the law of God.
hooker, kabet ( for filipinos), home wrecker, bitch and other not so good to hear names.
well in legal terms, the right word for that would be an adulterer, that of which should be proven guilty beyond reasonable doubt through evidence. and also, it must be presented on the judicial court, by the complainant. but for as long as it is not in the legal manner of presentation, the person cannot be called as an adulterer.
in Godly manner, yes it can be. the person can be called an adulterer through the eyes of God, depending on the religion and belief of the concerned person. Like in Muslim culture, it is acceptable to have multiple wives as their partners, provided that they can maintain and sustain the needs of their family with the other wives. But in the Roman Catholic Church, it is forbidden and sinful to have another woman, other than the legally binded wife. so what this is all about?
either way, whether you are the mistress or the legal wife, everything would be an argument. there are a lot of cases where, a married man or a woman is intimately acquainted and related to another person, by choice. and the complication goes everywhere within the relationships.
i do not endorse that the idea of having a mistress or multiple partners is justifiable. i only want to emphasize that we should not judge anybody by the choice that he made, for as long as it does’nt give any harm to others who are not concerned about.
respect is the key. because we all have the 3 F’s.. flaws, faults and failures. we will all be liable to whatever 3F’s that we have. we just need to learn to understand and accept the 3F’s that we see in each other.
many people today experience a lot of complications in their lives. most of those complications is all about love and relationships. some has multiple partners that takes them to the complexity of the word itself.
for me, complicated is just a statement. it can only be complicated if you wont let it clearly understandable to many. being complicated does not mean that you are not simple. it only means that you have a lot to explain.
but sometimes, we dont need to explain it or to elaborate it to a certain extent that we might confuse the audience. there are people that does not have the right to know everything about our life. if we choose to keep it private, then be it. if we choose to tell everything to the world, then shout it!
they say truth hurts. and i agree to a portion of it. but when we say truth, does it have to mean pain? truth is very subjective. i got an opportunity to ask a man, not closely related to me, about why does the truth hurts? he associated it with love, with a significant other. that, if you think your loved one or your partner will get hurt, if she will be able to know the truth about you cheating on her, she will definitely get hurt. but if she does not know, she wont get hurt a bit.
my point to that is, it should not be the truth that hurts, it’s the awareness to the truth that hurts.
in my own view to this “truth thing” would be.. just tell the truth, then you will be set free. free from carrying heavy loads and the guilt. it’s still best to walk lightly, because you will never miss a thing on your journey.
just recently, i have dealt with a problem, that i think was too huge and very serious. that’s the reason why i became inactive in my blog.
well, now finally the storm has ended. i manage to survive and im back with vengeance.
i love my family so much. they are my life, and i’l do evrything to protect them from any harm.
as far as i can remember, i was 15 when i had my first “boyfriend”… haha.. i was just second year high school. it was fun though, but i tend to hide it on my parents of course! but it did’nt lasts for a long time.. we only had 2 months.. whew!
on the lighter side, it was kinda cool then, when you have “someone” during the highschool years.. someone who can carry your bag, books etc.. look after you, join you at the canteen, buy you cheap flowers, give you notes of thoughtfullness. yeah.. fun, and kilig. but i think it should end there..
i dont recommend teens to enter in a serious relationship too early.. they might do some wrong decisions in life that they may regret after.. just like me. but whatever decisions i made in the past, it is still a part of my present and my future.. meaning, i cannot change it anymore. it has happened.
i just hope that teens right now, would have a good sense of judgement to be able to guide them in whatever decision they will commit. we all know what is right and what is wrong. but still, we insists what we want. teens, slow down, there’s alot of great opportunities out there that life has to offer.. dont miss to enjoy it!
Pauli ulit kong tinatanong sa sarili ko kung makikilala ko pa ba sya.. or does he ever existed? Till now, hindi ko alam. Maraming beses nakong nagmahal at umibig pero parang laging hiwalayan ang ending. In short, it was not successful everytime nalang. Hay.. nakakalungkot talaga.